I'm like a bird (flighty)

I'm writing again...a full...hmmmm...okay less than 24 hours after my last post.  Refer to the last post for context if you need to.

The writer who was disgusted with me (read post below),  read my entry today and got in contact with me.  We had conversations and I was able to understand what he meant.  We have internet kissed and made up.  I wasn't mad at him, just hurt and shocked by his disgust and his desire never to talk to me again.  He reacted strongly but he's a man and men can do that. 

Here's the crux of it.  He thought a smart woman (me) wouldn't be the kind of woman to accept a man could call her a moron (deleted post) and I'd be turned on by it.  I didn't do a good job of setting up the story because yes the guy called me a moron and yes I liked it, but it was in context of a very light teasing conversation in which I gave as good as I got.  Men aren't always able to exchange a volley of witty insults with me.  My confidence can be a little off putting, yes even intimidating.  The men want to please me rather than tease me.  I prefer the tease.

The other thing is I'm the furthest thing from moron.  If a beautiful woman got called ugly she would laugh.  It's the same with me...I'm very confident in my intelligence, in fact this guy was a match or better than I am in this dept. and he realized I have the ability to handle that particular insult.  I laughed hard when he said it.  It was damn funny. 

I thank you wonderful readers for your private and public comments - you do matter.  When this guy, internet dumped me (is there a term for that?) I was very hurt.  What you do or say penetrates as I want it to.  He wasn't the only reader who took objection with the way I'd talked about being called a moron, so I know I did a poor job of setting it up.

Truth is I want to be taken off my damn pedastal by men.  Roissy talks about this all the time.  Men should raise their value in a woman's eyes because of the omnipresent hypergamy instinct.  That guy did just that.  So did my emailer.  I feel better - I've learned something and if every day I can,  I'll be a happy bird.