Banging 9's not all it's cracked up to be

I took myself off on a little tangent in a comment response and thought I'd flesh it out more here.

My comment was that if every man on Roissy got the chance to 'bang' a 9 many would be disappointed.  I'm not saying 9's are bad in bed nor am I saying a 5 would be better. Mind you, I do find it quite funny when men talk about how much better a lower number is than a higher number in bed and I have a theory for this.  Men are more comfortable directing the plainer women than the true beauties.  This is because they are more comfortable themselves which allows them to 'demand'  pleasure rather than concentrate on hers.  Face it if a man had a 9 in bed with him, his performance anxiety is going to go up.  He's going to want to thrill her and create the most orgasmic experience she's ever had.  Talk about pressure.  His brain is going to take over and he'll second guess his moves.  Will she be okay with doggy he wonders.  He begins to question the moves he has and wishes he'd added more to his repertoire.  He starts imaging porn scenes and starts awkwardly moving her around trying to imitate; changing pace in ways that are not conducive to the flow of the experience.  He starts to lose his erection as his increasing anxiety starts affecting his performance.  Her beautiful mouth turns down as her big eyes look at him questioningly, her perfectly arched left eyebrow shooting up.  No orgasms for the 9 today.  

I'm fortunate that I've had both had and given great sex.  I've also had (and maybe given, but unlikely) bad sex.  For me the best sex I've had is when my partner is willing to take charge and direct.  My 'job' is to be a very willing subject and follow direction where given.  I'm not talking strictly verbal, I'm talking position changes and pace.  Sure I've been the ride em' cowgirl too and that has it's own set of thrills but I'd rather be asked to take that lead than start it myself.  

Personally I think the only guys who can handle 9s are the super duper studly sexpert men.  They can direct and not pedestalize the beauty lying beneath them, they can flip her over and spank the pretty ass and not worry she'll freak out.  Roissy is awesome in bed.  Roissy can bang a 9 and get bored with 6's cuz he can appreciate the visual while giving her a facial. 

But...

For most men the sight of a 9, all rosy pink from her fragrant bath, her pert nipples peaking out of her babydoll negligee will freak the shit right out of him.

Just sayin'