Face it

Gotta comment about looks. I believe the minute you put a picture up on a site you open up yourself to comments about them. I get that. Some people will view you as vain and others will view you as crazy. I enjoy a picture on a website personally. I like the face to the name dealie. One time at band camp...oh I mean Roissy some of the men put their faces up on a thread and from now on I picture the writer when he comments. I didn't think less of one person who did it - it made them have more depth in fact.

My blog grew out of my comments at Roissy. I didn't want to take up too much space describing my dating efforts or my personal angst on his site. I hit a chord with some readers at Roissy in a positive way (very few negative) and I wanted a salon of my own. Besides which I love to write and I find it quite cathartic.

I chose to put pictures on because it offered some validity to my claims. There are some posters who are nothing like they claim to be. I wanted to say - look I'm a woman. I'm a datable woman. Some believe I've altered myself so much that I've made an unattractive woman attractive - ya uh huh. Keep thinking that if it makes you feel better. Somehow the shots I put up have created an illusion of pretty? Facial structure, placement of features on a face can NOT be manipulated. It is what it is. Symmetry is what makes a face attractive not resolution. There are enough shots on this site to give a realistic picture to my overall attractiveness. If I were ugly I would have only posted two or three shots instead of the dozens. The dozens lend credence to the whole. That said I have never ever claimed to be all that. I am what I am and I'm happy with it. There are many others more beautiful and there many others less attractive.

In the end the point is that looks matter. They matter more for women then they do for men. If they didn't matter the girls who post pictures wouldn't be taking as much heat as we do for posting them. Surprisingly we take much more heat from women than we do from men for posting them. Why is that? Thoughts anyone.