Strength based management for real life.

One of my strengths is management.  Excellent management requires planning.  In order to plan, one need goals. In goal setting they must be specific, measurable, action oriented, point to who is responsible and time bound.  My current family situation involving a very dire, potentially critically ill family member will draw on this strength in the coming days, weeks and months.  Today I'm building a system which will track care-needs for this person, from medication delivery, appointments, right down to child care requirements.  It will be easy to use and allow each care-giver to see at a glance what's required for the family member's comfort and health.  I feel useful in this task.  I know that it will help in the days ahead and I know others aren't able to see the need because they don't have project management backgrounds.  This is project like no other I've taken on.  This one is rife with emotions and even now they're coming from all sides.  My role as project lead (I don't call myself this) is as follows:

Goal 1 - Ensure the patients needs/wants are considered prior to decision making both prior to and after surgery.

Goal 2 - Ensure the patient receives daily care and support until recovery is complete.

Goal 3 - Ensure the patients immediate family (child/spouse) are looked after until recovery is complete.

Goal 4 - Ensure all caregivers are consulted prior to assigning duties.

I won't go into tedious detail on what action plans were created from the goals above.  The unmentioned goal of course is to get this person better, returning to normal life as soon as possible and to help in whatever we can to achieve the best outcome.  The goals above are meant to assist in the ultimate goal.

My family is experiencing varying types of grief reactions.  My mother is one angry lady right now, I think losing a spouse at a young age and now with a child of hers in a terrible predicament she is lashing out.  I haven't been the victim yet, but I'm sure it'll come.  The important thing will be to remember that it's not about me.  It's not even about her.  Bottom line is how do we reach our goals.  My personal goal is to bear up under what is already proving to be a very difficult time.  No breakdowns in front of future patient - tears yes, not fall apart at the seams stuff.  No misdirected emotions at friends or other family.  Staying focused on the goals and praying for the strength to manage it.  I hope every lesson I've learned about being a good manager will come into play here and my family will survive stronger that we've been.  It's almost life or death.