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So less than 24 hours after my ex-ltr gave me his advice I met someone. I met someone in the way you should meet someone - in person. I've talked before about how internet dating is back asswards. You make some assumptions/presumptions based on a picture and a couple of emails and then have to see if there is attraction in person. I've had the most amazing emails and even phone conversations and then felt nothing in person by way of attraction.

I work in a building that also houses a bank. The assistant bank manager (abm)and I have been friendly over the last few years and she is aware I'm single. She met her fiance on the internet and she and one other friend who got lucky there convinced me to stay as long as I did on the net. Two days ago the abm came into our offices, I could hear her ask my assistant if I was around. I got up and went into the foyer. The abm told me she had someone she'd like me to meet. I said sure. It honestly didn't dawn on me at this point it was a man-meet. I went into the hallway which separates our two businesses and she said introduced me to D. D is 6'1", well built, handsome and older than me. I still have no clue this is an 'introduction'. I shake his hand and he smiles a big grin back. The abm says "D is a friend of mine we went to high school together and he's thinking of internet dating I thought maybe you could share some of your thoughts on it." Still clueless I tell him I don't think it's the way to go, how you need the first person attraction first. He opens up with he is currently on a site and he's not found the women to be accurately portraying themselves. I said that's part of it but it's also you think things about the person before you've even met them. For example I told him some people imagine me shy by my pictures and I'm the last thing from shy. I then started to talk about my desire to try speed dating. I'm still clueless about the purpose. I, mind you, am paying attention to him. I like what I see and hear. I start talking about the show Dating in the Dark and that seem interesting to both the abm and D. This conversation is maybe 10 minutes in total. When the abm asks him for his card to give to me it dawns on me. This is a set-up. It's at this point I get a little nervous and I can't think enough to give him my card. He writes his phone number on the back of his card and gives it to me. It's then I see he's a police officer. I tell him we should get together to talk about dating experiences and he agrees. Shortly afterwards he leaves.

The amb comes into my office and asks me what I think. I tell her I think he's cute. She gives me a little information on him, verifying him a good guy who is older than her, turns out eight years older than I am. Nice.

I sought Rossy man help on Roissy's blog but Rum's suggestion I roll in baby oil and cam myself naked for the guys eyes just didn't' feel right - not sure why. I ended up calling him that night. Long story short he was very pleased I called, we talked for an hour. Yesterday he texted and said he'd call me later. He did. We're meeting this weekend. Oh and he said he was attracted to me so that part is taken care of - now we just have the personality match to figure out.