My thoughts on the roissysphere.
I think because I don't have the writing gifts of Ms. Clio or the words like Ms. Sofia or the deep thoughts like Bhetti I can come across as simpler than I am. I'm not bothered with the impression mostly because I'm content with my level of intelligence overall. I have weaker critical-thinking writing skill than verbal skill. I'm known as a very smart girl in my world and pass for a very smart girl in most of the outside world as well. I don't need or feel compelled overall to prove it either at Roissy or here. I like writing as I would be in life.
That said...
I believe some feel I'm naive when it comes to men or relationships and I'm anything but. I've lived in an ltr for years and I've lived as a single woman for years so I've been in both worlds. My active search for a mate began in 2007, I'd been single a long time before that by choice. My growing up years and bad choice in my ltr man left me in a less than ideal state. I needed to come to terms with this and began to work on a career and chose to be connected to my mostly married friends. My only regret is not understanding a woman's attractiveness decreases with age - I was brainwashed by Sex in the City type programming. Mind you I was pretty messed and could have ended up with another poor choice.
Since 2007 I've had one online intense life altering experience, four exclusive relationships - the longest lasting four months, and had close to 100 first/second type dates. I ended two of the exclusive relationships and two ended them with me. The last one was ended by Alpha-ex and is documented quite well in the pages of this blog. My relationship with this natural alpha was the real reason I became intrigued by Roissy. I began to understand why I was attracted to him. I thought maybe it was just assholes I liked. No I like alpha males.
Mind you to be honest I have a problem with the whole alpha/beta/omega principal. I think the lines are much more blurry and intangible than Roissy makes them. Roissy uses science-like descriptions and maybe that's a guy thing but I don't think it's so cut and dried. I know I like a man who is charming, confident, decisive, good humoured, attractive, intelligent and sexual. I also like a man who is emotional. I'm not into a man who is precise, calculating, bossy, rude, arrogant, stupid, ignorant, or dismissive. Neither of my descriptions can be summed up clearly as alpha or beta.
I believe personality, morals, values, shared vision/goals all play a part in attraction. This stuff is missed in the discussion in Roissy World. I don't believe for an instant that all the men at Roissy are unaware of this either, it's just not built into the environment and not brought out unless by roissy outliers. Rude arguments are the snack and beverage of the day at Roissy so each position is quite happy to feed itself. Do I think people swing a direction they weren't already headed by going to his site? No. He just reinforces opinions already formed.
I decided to stay at Roissy (here comes a secret) in order to prove women are thoughtful, feminine and genuine. Some men have lost sight of that. Clio is loved as are bhetti and sofia because they can state an opinion without being bitches. Hope is attacked because she's not offering them hope. Hope says game doesn't work and the men there are either laughable or losers (maybe that's the same thing). She doesn't say it so much that way, she's sweeter but they can tell that's what she thinks. Roissy for sure thinks that's what she means because he threatened to do an attack post on her (like Lady Rain). They have to attack her otherwise they'd lose hope for their futures. Roissy's way seems to be a promise of a promised land (of hot poon) they want to believe its obtainable.
I like the evo-psych talk I think it's rooted in truth. I won't go into what I like about it because I don't think I have the talent for explaining it at a high enough level for you dear readers. Suffice it to say I think we're driven by innate needs and dominance in men and submission in women are at the root of it. Okay I tried to explain and that WAS way to simple - sorry.
All the information I take in I want to apply to my life in a useful way. If I'm being too picky because I'm older than the optimal age I'll have to face a life of singleness because I can't (it's not even won't) compromise. I refuse to fit into any stereotype and will not go the way of the cougar - it repulses me. I'm a very sexual woman who will not slut around and that leaves me with an empty bed and I live with that. I will behave like a quality woman because frankly I'm a quality woman. Roissy's men believe in a quality woman I can see that. There is some confusion perhaps in regards to the Madonna/whore complex but I see it as minimal.
I'm often less than optimistic about my future but that's not because I'm depressed or have had my mind brainwashed at Roissy. I've only been there since May, my dating journey began in July 2007, Roissy's views confirm my experience. Voila.
I don't like to end things on a sad note. I should add that my future is less than optimistic if I continue doing the same things I have been doing. I've decided to mix things up a bit. Speed dating is in my future for one thing. I think this has more possibility because chemistry/attraction is instant and you can figure out the rest afterwards. Online dating is the rest first attraction later - and hasn't worked out that well for me. Plus I'm on a mission to lose a bit of pudgy. I get it men like slender and I'm curvy (okay willard said chubby). I have eight weeks before I go on a fun in the sun holiday with chickie girl friends and it's doable. I started Step and Sculpt last week. Fine I'm the only one who fell off the step but I bet I'll improve the most! Spin class is calling my name too. Low carb, no salt, no commercial sugar, moderate fat and protein and I'm on my way to hotter. Let me know if you have any fab tips for me. I don't want to be the girl with chunk in her trunk.
I'm impressed by the comments I get don't for an instant think I don't consider what each of you say carefully. (that goes for you too Default the newly formed asshole -*grin)
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